I can remember when Valentine's Day was a day I absolutely dreaded and loathed. IN fact I was a bit envious of my friends who had someone. Sad yes but once I got "fed up", I surrendered my will, I let go of the bitterness and hurt that plagued me! God made the way for me and allowed my heart and eyes to be opened! And now I have the love I could ONLY DREAM OF!! SO please if you are one that dreads the V Day, I encourage you to read the following article that provides us with a few REALISTIC tips to help you cope AND a reminder of the GREATEST love of all! I hope this encourges you to realize YOU ARE LOVED and YOU ARE NEVER alone!
Are You Dreading Valentine'sDay?
Article Courtesy of Laura Petheridge from christianity.com
When I went through my divorce Valentine’s Day was one of the most dreaded days of the year. I hated it. The endless scenarios of people falling in love or frolicking on sun baked beaches all confirmed that I was a failure. During that season of loss and grief my friends tried to tell me I was a terrific person. But I felt like an ugly, rejected loser who couldn’t keep a husband, and Valentine’s Day was the proof.
Engagement ring commercials inflicted the worst torture. I’d watch the lovers proclaiming a life of endless bliss, pledging eternal love to each other. And the sparkling emerald-cut diamond ring somehow made it all delightfully perfect. My cynical tongue would hiss, “Yeah, someone made that vow to me once too—don’t believe it!”
After several years of helping others during their divorce, and time spent listening to truth instead of the media, I discovered a handful of encouraging ways for single people to cope with the day for “lovers.”
I’m not talking about an unrealistic “just don’t think about it” mentality, or pretending the day doesn’t evoke nostalgia or a longing for someone special. We were created for companionship, that’s a God-given need.
However, my suggestion is an optimistic approach to Valentines Day, instead of focusing on what is lacking. What if our yearnings caused us to look for beneficial ways to heal our wounds rather than tolerate them? When we take positive steps toward mending a broken heart, the result can be a healed life that thrives—whether single or married.
Here are a few practical “Survival Tips” to help a person refrain from an emotional meltdown on Valentine’s Day.
And the last, but not least suggestion: Look to the true “Lover of your Soul” Jesus, for comfort. He alone is the one who knows all of your pain, needs and desires. And He promises that He loves you with an everlasting love that will not change or fade (Jeremiah 31:3, Isaiah 55). He longs to lavish you with love, his passionate heart burns for you. (I John 3:1, Zephaniah 3:17).
I pray these suggestions help to make Valentine's Day brighter. After all, any day with chocolate as the focus is something to smile about!